For the Birth:
First things first: Remember that you are a woman, and as a woman YOU have the strength and power to birth your baby. Your body knows what to do, your baby knows what to do, so let your mind go and allow yourself to BE in the experience without trying to control it. Do what you need to prepare yourself and your space for birth and when the time comes and labor has started, let it all go and be in the moment.
Allow yourself to go deeply inwards and be guided through the initiation into motherhood. Only have people present that you can poop in front of, or those who you do not have to even think about in the process. (IE if your mother is a worrier and you will end up thinking about how she is doing watching you in pain, perhaps consider whether or not she needs to be there. Do not have anyone there unless you WANT them to be there). You need to be able to focus on you and your baby, let everyone else take care of them selves. Nothing else matters.
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